There comes a point in every artist’s life where you come to a crossroads; a fork in the road, a separation from your current life, a change in scenery. Sometimes this change can be unexpected, unwelcome and sudden, and other times it can creep up slowly without us realising that change is taking place. 

Separation from people who we thought were for us can be painful. The saliant point here is that we thought these people were for us but in reality they weren’t. It may be they never had the same vision as us; we were mislead and distracted by something that they offered that on the surface looked good but ultimately wasn’t. Equally it may be the that season of running together has come to an end; some relationships have a temporary purpose but they are not lifelong commitments. It’s not that the relationship is bad, it’s just that it no longer serves its purpose and that both parties need to head off on new ventures and paths in order to find fulfillment and their God given destiny. 

The artistic journey can be lonely. Most artists experience being misunderstood or overlooked. They are considered to be dreamers, unrealistic, irrelevant or avant garde. Artists are prophetic voices in an impaired and self-absorbed world. They voice disturbing truths, they speak out against the injustice and challenge cultural norms. They are consumed by a message that they must convey and express in a unique and profound way. Change makers and pioneers rarely have a large group of close acquaintances; their friendship groups tend to be small as few understand and support the message that they carry. 

If we don’t let go of people who aren’t meant to be walking through life with us, we can miss out on seasons, experiences and relationships that are part of God’s plan. The wrong people may delay our calling, hinder progress or distract us from doing God’s will. This can lead to a detour that we do not need to make. Obedience to God’s plan can look like everything is disintegrating, whereas from God’s point of view, he is rearranging our lives to reflect his plan for us. With God, a loss eventually becomes a gain. Nothing can withstand God’s divine alignment for our lives if we submit to the changes that he takes us through. Certain things must end, so that better things can begin. As people leave, we make room and clear a path for the new; a preparation time for what’s to come. 

Not all relationships end well and that can be distressing; however, for God’s message of love to be spread further afield, separation is a good thing. In Acts 15:36-39, Paul and Barnabas disagree over whether John Mark should come with them on a mission trip, the disagreement is so sharp that they split up and head off in different directions. The result of this disagreement and separation is that the gospel is spread further afield. The disagreement led to a positive spiritual outcome. Jesus takes the difficult and unexplainable things in our lives and turns them around for our good. 

If you are going through a season of people leaving and line up changes, it might be that God is changing your relationships to enable you to grow, develop and go further than you can imagine. What seems like a period of emptiness could lead to a time of fullness, fulfilment, and contentment; a period of time where the vision is refined and honed. He is clearing out what is no longer useful or needed, so that healthy, productive relationships can begin. If you want the creative message you carry to go further, submit to the clearing out process and allow God to reshape your life, in doing so your artistic work will have a greater impact. Wait for the season to change and for God to bring the right people to you. People who care for you, support your vision and have your best interests at heart. With the right team in place, you have a promising future. Not everyone can come with you on the journey…

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